Finding that right man, falling in love and marrying him to lead a happy family and having beautiful babies, isn’t that the epitome of what every woman wants? Hypothetically that does sound like the ultimate picture-perfect milestone but hold your gears, not all women want that. In fact, some of us, actually want to lead a solo life, with no kids. Those women who want to concentrate on the life they lead, it’s nothing like they hate kids or family, it’s just not everybody is cut out for motherhood.
While some choose the solo life, there are some women that actually want to have kids but can’t conceive, it’s a grey area for them to even think about it. Well that’s how the universe works, right? There is always a barrier that stops us from getting a perfect life.
You might not know this but (well it’s even better if you already knew about it), there are celebrities that have chosen to not have kids, don’t judge just yet because they have a good reason behind it. And there are those who can’t conceive but somehow made it happen. If this whole maternity situation intrigues you, be glad that we did the work and brought together some hardworking Hollywood actress who stood out from what society tries to portray women, it ain’t the same no more.
1. Jordana Brewster.
The actress, unfortunately, can’t conceive but that didn’t stop her from having babies. She and her husband Andrew Form used a gestational surrogate to have their two sons and made her dreams come true in the end. The actress says that having children is “the most intimate leap of faith and trust you can take.”
2. Helen Mirren.
The legendary actress says she has no maternal instinct in her. She believes that having an identity and safeguarding that is her priority, she just can’t imagine taking the responsibility of a mother. Mirren in her own words, “I think an awful lot of women don’t really want children but feel they ought to. They think there’s something wrong with them if they don’t want to, but it’s not true.”
3. Jennifer Aniston.
“I don’t think it’s fair. You may not have a child come out of your v**ina, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t mothering — dogs, friends, friends’ children.”
The “Friends” star is busy with her life, now with her husband living life to the fullest. She believes that a woman doesn’t necessarily need to have a child to experience motherhood. It is a natural instinct that every woman carries with age and beauty throughout their life.
4. Emma Thompson.
When Emma had her first daughter Gaia, she wanted her daughter to have another sibling, so did she try but failed to get pregnant, the actress went into a clinical depression at the time. But now she has come to terms in believing that what matters is what you have. Not what you can have but can’t. She adds, “It’s only now that I no longer count other people’s children or judge myself harshly for not providing my daughter with a sibling.”
5. Margaret Cho.
The hilarious comedian also acts, sings, writes, and designs. With a multi-talent nature no wonder why she doesn’t have time to become a mother. For Cho, she admits solely that she doesn’t feel anything, she just acknowledges that they are little humans, nothing more than that. Cho lets out saying, “I do not want children. When I see children, I feel nothing. I have no maternal instinct. I am barren. I ovulate sand. I look at children and feel no pull toward them, no desire whatsoever”.
6. Oprah Winfrey.
We all know that Oprah has the heart of a caring mother, but turns out she doesn’t want kids, she chose the life of glamour and hard work knowing that someday she’ll have to sacrifice a part of her for it, and she didn’t want that sacrifice to be her kids, so chose not to have them. “If I had kids, my kids would hate me. They would have ended up on the equivalent of the Oprah show talking about me; because something [in my life] would have had to suffer and it would’ve probably been them.”
7. Amy Smart.
Amy posted this picture on Instagram after one month of having their baby captioning they had it through surrogacy. “One month ago today, Dec. 26, our amazing beautiful daughter came into this world. Feeling so grateful to have her in my arms… after years of fertility struggles, I give thanks today to our kind, loving surrogate for carrying her.” The couple looks so happy and the smiles are so genuine now that the family is complete.
8. Cameroon Diaz.
The blondie bombshell chose to be a solo actress and now an author feeling up her own destiny and faith, she knows what she wants and that’s being responsible for her own life, the actress is happy and healthy now more than ever. Diaz adds,“It’s so much more work to have children. To have lives besides your own that you are responsible for — I didn’t take that on. That did make things easier for me. A baby — that’s all day, every day for eighteen years.”
9. Trista Sutter.
After marrying Ryan, the coupled suffered for two years to have children but failed and Trista went to a dark mode, it was hard on her. But luckily after the long-dreaded two years, the love of motherhood shined on the couple and had beautiful kids. “I talk about in the book how we struggled with infertility for almost two years. I always wanted to be a mom, it was always my dream, and although I wanted to be a career person for a very long time, overplaying that at all times was to become a mother.”
10. Candace Bushnell.
She knew exactly what she wants and what she has to give up when Candace chose to become a bestselling author. “I think it’s a career where you have to put the career first. I don’t have kids but — and luckily everyone isn’t like this — I think if you have that passion, in a way, your career is your child.” The woman exactly speaks my mine as well. Why can’t a career be our children, right?
11. Chelsea Handler.
I like this woman personally, she is sarcastic and funny, and she has been very honest and open about not liking kids or not wanting them. Its just as plain as that, the woman says, “I’m a great aunt or friend of the mother. I don’t want to spend that kind of time. I don’t want to have a kid and have it raised by a nanny. I’m 41 now. I don’t ever look back and think, ‘God, I wish I’d had that baby.’”
12. Mavis Leno.
Mavis and her husband Jay Leno took the option of not having a kid, and she made it clear that it was her decision for it. She didn’t want to feel trapped and just wanted to live life the same way always.“I would see a young woman who was very attractive and a thousand times smarter, and she’s living in this little tenement hovel with her husband […] These men spend all their time talking about what a drag the wives are and asking how can they get away from them. It’s perfectly obvious the women are the ones trapped.”
13. Kate Walsh.
“I don’t have children. I’m not going to have kids. I went through early menopause. My older sister called and was like, ‘By the way, you should go and get yourself checked because I’m going through menopause early.’ The actress wanted to have kids but due to early menopause she couldn’t have any, neither did she opted for adoption. The lady accepted what was written for her bravely. What a strong inspiring woman!
14. Chrissy Teigen.
The beautiful model wanted to have kids in an old-fashioned way, so did she when she married singer Jonh Legend. “As many of you know, we’ve been trying to have a baby for a while now. It hasn’t been easy, but we kept trying because we can’t wait to bring our first child into the world and grow our family. We’re so excited that it’s finally happening.” The couple is expecting baby no.2 as well.
15. Elisabeth Rohm.
Law & Order actress Elizabeth didn’t quit when she found out she couldn’t bear a child. She and her fiance decided to try IVF and had a daughter named Easton August. The actress blogged about her experience and wrote a book on it by the name Baby Steps: Having the Child I Always Wanted (Just Not As I Expected).
Motherhood is a beautiful chapter in a woman’s life, though it is a precious gift, every woman should have the right choose their path. It’s not an easy job and it’s something that should be chosen only out of love, not of needs or necessities.