Childbirth is an emotional process that every mother goes through in their lifetime. Starting from sharing the news of the pregnancy to loved ones, then the journey of carrying the baby for 9 months and finally the day of delivery. A new-born baby in the arms of his/her loving mother. But let’s cut to the chase, pregnancy life is not a glamorous one. Most women start to gain weight, their physical appearances change according to the hormones. And there is no running away from the stretch marks that are left behind after childbirth. Lucky are those women who are blessed with normal belly even after a delivery.
Well, a mother of four experienced the same cycle of skin-stretching, but when she posted a picture online, the feedbacks are more negative then you’d imagine.
Doreen Ching is a 23-year-old mother of four children living with her family in Johor Province, Malaysia. The young mother after giving birth to 4 kids obviously has undergone many physical changes all throughout her married life. And that’s what all women do. People think it’s easy but it is not.
She uploaded a picture of her stomach scarred with intense stretchmark on Social media.
It’s hard for anyone to accept such harsh changes in their body, even though Doreen has beautiful kids whom she loves a lot but still, the sacrifice she made was not a mere one. And having said that the result of her stomach is obviously a serious matter, who would want their body to scar like that? Anyone would be affected by it, right?
Here’s a clearer picture of her scars.
After giving birth to the 4th child, Doreen was anxious to see her body, that was the first thing that came to her mind she says. And when she sees the image of her body she broke down in tears.
In the post, she wrote, ”Only 21 at the time, I wondered how I would be able to accept my stomach looking like this for the rest of my life.”
Over the course of time, she has learned to adapt to the truth and accept the inevitable fact.
Well, in that time she did break down and lost her mind a bit over it (even I would) but now she is back to her life and loves the way she is.
The picture of her stomach went viral on the net with 12,000 shares and 23,000 likes and spread lots of minds towards motherhood and beauty.
While some people liked her bravery and positivity there were many who called her ugly and other means words like she did it on her own will, and she shouldn’t have had that many kids if she wanted a smooth skin. Like why would anyone say such mean things?
She says, “Many told me I looked ugly and disgusting, and that they wanted to vomit. Some men said it was all the women’s fault for wanting to have so many kids.”
Doreen also had some replies to the mean words and she knew how to shut them up.
She says, ”Please respect the women of this world, such as your mother and your wife, who manage childbirth and still work. Can you do that? My stomach doesn’t matter. I can still wear a bikini at home. I can only be as perfect as I can be”.
People who were inspired by her story left some beautiful comments on her post.
Tiger stripes, I agree too, the fierceness of a mother.
So wisely said, after all children are the future.
Hats off to all the women who undergo motherhood and nails at their duty, there nothing in this world that can be compared to the amount of work, sacrifice, and love they have.